Geez...
People are crazy....first of all.
In my last blog...I was using a blog for what's it for...getting your feelings out. Not once did I say anyone was a bad friend, picking a fight or I was mad at anyone. I was strictly upset, and stating that facts! I would not use my blog to "call someone out"... I just was using it to get my feelings out and not bottle them in. Honestly. I am more mature than that...we all know this. Plus, I don't think Jeni reads my blog anymore, since the only way I know is though comments!!!! A few hours later, when talking to Mike I even told him that I felt better getting it off my chest and that I was glad I wrote it since I felt better.
I understand that there are friends in everyone's life that you don't talk to as much as you should, but when you do talk you pick up right where you left off. Then there's other people in your life that you talk to on a regular basis since you see them more. I was just saying that it's upsetting to know when you're the one who makes time and thinks about that other person. I don't think it's too much to want to get back what you give sometimes. If that's considered selfish or "high maintenance", then we all guilty of this from time to time.
If anything Jeni should be taking that last post as a compliment that she means that much to me that it upsets me when we don't talk. Especailly, when I'm going through a rough time, that I haven't had time to blog about. One would have thought, since I was upset she'd want to know why and make things right. But if she doesn't that's her choice.
PS....there's always a reason why people get defensive; they don't do it for no reason. Good friends care when you're upset not jump all over you and try to make you feel worse. So thanks Amy for being that special someone.
posted by Melne @ 9:06 PM
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Hey girl you know I'm always here to talk if you need anything you know that!
Now that's how a REAL friend acts! Thanks it means the world to me :)
Don't you think you are over-reacting a little bit? From everything I read, nothing she said was untrue or out of line. Unless she said more another time to you that we're missing or something.
Also, I don't see any possible way for someone to take your post "Hurtful" as a compliment. Even if that's how it was meant.
So calling some a "high maintenance" friend isn't hurtful? I just realized that Jeni only "needs or wants" you around when there's something you can do for her. And it sucked to realize that and I was going to go about my life knowing that she wasn't as good of a person as I thought, and nothing else. Also maybe you should read what a wrote a little closer. Plus Jeni said to a mutual friend that because of my post she's not talking to me ever again....talk about over-reacting. Also a major point is that in "hurtful" I didn't name any names....so obviously someone not naming names (JENI) felt guilty of what I was stricting vently about....not trying to ruin friendships over.
And yes it wasn't meant at first as a compliment but after I thought about it...it actually is. For you to mean so much to someone that it truly upsets them deep down not to hear from you. If that's not a compliment I don't know what is.
Posting anonymously and taking a cheap shot is the coward's way...if you're going to critize me and who I am...I at least deserve to know who you are.
Not once did I say to anyone that I was not going to ever talk to you again. I strictly said that I was going to let this die down before I approch the situation because everyone seems to be pretty worked up about it right now and I don't really want to make things worse.` But because of this anonymous comment, shit is hitting the fan again, just when I thought things were starting to settle down. I never said I hated anyone or that I never was going to talk to you again. It upsets me though that I am continuously getting slammed. Now that to me is not very friendly either. I am not someone who is going to argue something over the internet, but I just want to set the record straight that I am trying to handle things in the most mature way and to do my best to not make things worse. Take from that what you will, but that is how I feel. I think that this whole thing has blown way out of porportion and I think that you might agree. It all boils down to me not calling you and nothing more. Everything else is being brought on from outsiders which is making the whole situation seem so much worse. If you would like to discuss this between you and I you can let me know, but until then I am going to assume that you do not want to try to resolve anything because you have "realized that I only "need or want" you around when there's something you can do for me," which lets face it.. I have not once NEEDED anything from you.
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